Have you ever scrolled through social media, looked at other women doing amazing things, and thought:
“She’s doing it for attention. Ohh She’s just showing off.”
It's not on them. That twinge of jealousy you are feeling, the comparisons you start doing. It's on you.
The truth is, when you stop pouring into yourself, you start to see other women as a threat instead of seeing them as inspiration. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
You too can level up and leave the hate in the dust.
Here are 5 ways to pour into yourself and not be a hater:
1. Elevate Yourself So That You Don’t Have Time to Hate Other Women.
Would you rather spend 1 hour throwing shade around or negative remarks about someone or would you rather invest your energy in learning 5 new terms and expanding your vocabulary.
I prefer the latter.
Successful and confident women aren’t sitting around hating on others, they celebrate them whilst they are busy elevating themselves.
Here’s how you can too:
- Expand your mindset by reading books, take courses to learn a new skill.
- Go to the gym or just go for a walk every day and get those 10 000 steps. Make yourself feel good by switching up your appearance. Please yourself first.
- Say your daily affirmations out loud and start journaling, you can even consider doing shadow work.
- Meditate, spend some time alone and reflect on how you're feeling, what's happening, what do you think you can improve on.
When you’re busy focusing on YOU, there is no room for jealousy to flourish. You stop asking yourself why other women are doing this and that because you're doing your own version of things.
2. Self-Care Isn’t Just About Glowing Skin.
Self-care is more than just bubble baths and sugar scrubs (though yes, they are soo gooood). It’s also about loving your entire being. inside out.
Find your inner self: Dedicate some time to understand who you are. Ask yourself what you desire. Validate your own value.
Love yourself externally: Take care of your appearance. Hair, makeup, skincare, nails -it’s not about impressing other people. It’s about feeling like the you're that girl.
And listen, self-care is not a one method for all type of thing. If you’re not into lashes or getting your nails done there is nothing wrong with that. You could be into grooming your brows, maintaining a polished, professional look, styling your hijab. Find what makes you pop out and own it.
3. Stop Projecting, Start Reflecting.
When you start judging other women, it’s usually a mirror of your own journey.
It's an indication of where you'd probably like to be.
These girls you see killing it at the gym. They are not your competition - they are proof of what you can also do.
The woman that is rocking a bold red lip stick while crushing her day? She is not doing it because she wants attention - she’s doing it because it makes her feel gorgeous.
So instead of comparing and making yourself a victim of jealousy weighing you down, ask yourself:
How do I show up for myself in a way that portrays the qualities that I admire about her and make me feel good.
What can I do differently today to invest in my well-being, growth or my appearance.
4. Don’t Be a Loser in Your Own Story.
Girl I cannot stress this any further but your internal dialogue matters. There is a lot going on in this world. Social media is another factor. Why are you speaking so negatively about yourself.
Words are powerful.
If you're constantly telling yourself, you're ugly you're diving into a cycle of degradation. Today it's a negative word, tomorrow you don't even want to do your hair because you don't see the point, and by Friday you are looking crusty... it's all a self-fulling prophecy
So, you need change that, you need to start speaking only the best things unto yourself.
Give yourself love, validation, trust yourself and believe that you can. It'll begin to show in your actions.
5. It All Starts with You.
Ladies, your light shines the brightest when you show up for yourself with the same love and admiration you see in others. Be kind to yourself, but don’t be passive.
Small acts of care build the confident, empowered woman you’re meant to be. One step forward at a time. One day at a time.
Let’s make a pact: stop comparing, stop hating, start glowing. Invest in yourself. Elevate yourself. And watch how your mindset shifts and your confidence radiates.
You've got this 👑